How many of us receive health advice from Hrithik Roshan and then help him maximize his work potential? Arfeen Khan laughs, “When I first met Hrithik, I was quite overweight. He was intrigued by my sessions aimed at enhancing his professional performance, but told me I needed to lose weight.”
Hrithik provided a ten-week diet plan aiming for a 10 kg weight loss. “After sticking to the diet, I returned 14 kg lighter in 10 weeks, visibly transformed. He was amazed.” This sparked a friendship, and Arfeen became Hrithik Roshan’s mind coach.
What sets a mind coach apart from a psychotherapist, mentor, or guide? “Many dislike me. I’m not interested in your past. I focus on your present, steering you to reach your full potential.”
Arfeen, with his British-Indian accent and upbringing in a disciplined London household, ventured into mentoring and coaching, transforming over 900,000 lives. Married to actor and coach Sara Arfeen Khan, they have twins. He acted as Katrina Kaif’s brother in Mere Brother ki Dulhan and appeared on Bigg Boss, though he was evicted after five weeks.
“Some advised against Bigg Boss, but I wanted to connect with 300 million viewers. I enjoyed it.” Did he coach anyone there? “Yes, I helped contestant Chahat, who often cried. But she was the first to attack me,” he laughs. The show was a fascinating study of human behavior.
In an earlier interview, Hrithik Roshan shared how early career pressures for perfection felt like being chased by a dog. “Now, that dog is gone,” he said. Arfeen’s response is insightful: “Most people under pressure feel chased. Transforming pressure into a challenge makes the journey enjoyable.”
“Many like Hrithik aim for outcomes—be it champion mothers, fathers, actors. The shift is in mindset—from avoiding pain to embracing the joy of achievement.”
Known as a peak performance strategist, Arfeen says, “I work through the heart, not the head. Life’s first sign is a heartbeat. We’re taught to prioritize thought over feeling, but courage is heart-driven, even when logic argues otherwise. So, call me a heart activator.”
Arfeen leads a global team of 4,000 coaches, with a vibrant chapter in Dubai. “They’re trained to be ‘system operation fixers,’ helping you experience life joyfully instead of under pressure.”
Does prayer uplift your mood? How?
“The Arabic word Askiya means heart purification. Proper prayer serves as life interventions, balancing our breath and activating the heart center.”
On intuition and ‘gut feeling,’ Arfeen says, “Gut feeling is just a feeling, but intuition is a ‘spidey sense,’ a whisper growing louder if you listen to your inner self.” He recalls, “During an interview, I asked the journalist if she was abused as a child. She broke down, asking how I knew. We all have this emotional switch, but often leave it inactive.”
Arfeen plans to homeschool his children, believing traditional schools hinder growth. “I don’t want them to learn by rote and be confined by imposed thoughts.”
“Live in your heart, not your mind,” he concludes.
